Let’s face it, we’re all working if we are moms. It comes with the title of being a mom. It just looks different for everyone. Some moms can choose not to work outside of the home, some moms choose to work outside of the home, sometimes working outside of the home isn’t an option due to schedule and daycare costs, others simply don’t have the option not to work outside of home. The situations are unique to each family and can change and evolve over time. It’s hard work being a mom in any situation so I’m not here to judge. Instead I’m here to learn what works for your family and share my thoughts from where I stand.
For me, I choose to work outside of the home. This is in part due our lifestyle, while not glamorous or luxurious but comfortable, and in part for my own sanity. In all honesty Mr. E &G has offered to let me take some time off of work but I truly love what I do and it wouldn’t make sense for me to take a break now. I’ll let you in on a little secret too. While I absolutely love and adore my daughter, I sometimes go insane when I’m home multiple days in a row. I feel guilty I feel this way, she is my world and I can’t imagine life without her, but I do. I’m working on this guilt and I’ll share that another day. Seriously, more power to all my stay at home mom friends. I literally do not know how you do it!
So on Monday’s I’ll share a glimpse into my life as a working outside-of-the home mom.
Today’s question: Do you feel guilty about being away/putting your child in daycare?
Yes, sometimes I do feel guilty. I feel guilty when I miss something important at her preschool, I feel guilty when I can’t be there to give her a hug and console her when she’s sad or when I leave her begging for more hugs at drop-off. I feel even more guilt though when we’ve been at home and I snap at her because I’m losing my patience, I’m exhausted or I just need a few minutes to myself. Maybe I’m just a bit selfish but work allows me to think about something other than make-believe play, princesses and wiping bottoms.
As for the daycare part and having others help raise my child, I do believe in the it takes a village to raise a child concept. I’ve never been a Betty homemaker-type so I’ll take all the help I can get. Lady Elle has been in daycare since she was five months old and she and her playmates have a special bond. They’ve grown up together-they hug, laugh and cry together. They get excited to see one another on Monday mornings and at birthday parties on the weekends. It warms my heart to see her develop an empathetic and caring soul who cares about others. She’s learning lifelong skills such as empathy, sympathy and hopefully her numbers and letters along the way. Basically I pay for her to hang out with her friends every day. Who wouldn’t want to do that? Sign me up please!
So while I get the Sunday evening blues and Mondays come too early, I try to minimize the guilt and embrace the positives in being a working outside of the home mom.
Do you feel guilty as a working mom or as a stay at home mom?